Where do cracks come from, not just between husbands and wives…in relationships in general? There can be a thousand reasons for cracking. No matter how you round it up, most of the reasons fall into these ten. Let’s see ten such reasons.
1. Ego
Ego is the thing that should not be seen in the family! Because ‘go’ is within that word, if it comes to someone, it drives away the peace. Life is not a field where you are great…I am great. The wife may know what the husband does not know; The husband may know what the wife does not know; It is not necessary for everyone to know everything. On the other hand, this ego often comes and goes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. So let’s get rid of the ego.
2. Inferiority Complex
It is not known at what time it will peek inside the human. Not being able to do something and even being teased by family members for it can turn into a feeling of inferiority for some people. It eventually increases and forms a circle between them. The circle itself becomes a crack. This inferiority complex can come from anything from cooking to studying.
3. Misunderstanding
Understanding is what makes life beautiful. Whether it is husband and wife, father, son, brother or sister, understanding is essential in any relationship. Life is a gift if there is only understanding. If that is not the case, then everything you touch starts having problems. You will start getting angry with everyone saying, ‘Nobody wants to listen to me…’. You need to understand the feelings of others at home just as you want others to understand you.
4. Possessiveness
We have become accustomed to the possessiveness of ‘owning only oneself’. This possessiveness is love beyond measure. Even if the husband talks to another woman or the wife to another man casually, it cannot be tolerated. If something like that happens at this place, you should make your partner understand the importance of saying ‘Hey Lusu… she and you are one…’ at the same place. If it grows like that, it is dangerous. This may come after marriage. It can come even at the age of 40. It can be entered at any time.
5. Suspicion
The difference between possessiveness and this is a fine line. This is the next step. Doubt is something that should never come into the house under any circumstances in life. Doubt has the power to make life hell. The suspected ghost entered many houses, turned the house upside down and in some places even took lives. So don’t let the ghost of doubt enter your mind. If you feel something like that, discuss it immediately with your partner and clarify it. If your doubt grows, it will grow into a forest of thorns that cannot be cut.
6. Not being open about their feelings
No matter how big the problem is, it can be solved if you speak your mind. But many people are not ready to talk like that. The rift is widened when both husband and wife put off the fights without talking about them. Similarly, whether it is a child…or a parent…everyone has a thought within them. Others will differ from it. Only talking at that time will solve it. If a person only thinks about a matter in his mind, he will not get a solution. It can only be cracked.
7. The intervention of a third person
Especially this is something that husband and wife should look out for. Any problem should not be taken to a third party for any reason. Both of them should talk and settle. No one can think better of the husband than the wife, and of the wife than the husband; Can’t do good. When a third person gets into your problem, it means that you are getting ready to get into another problem.
8. Harassment
The affection between husband and wife starts to wane a little after the arrival of children. That too women past 40 years of age show love and concern for children and do not see their husbands. Even if the husband comes close, they will go away. That’s when warmth is important to your partner. Not only hitting and fighting, but walking away is also a type of harassment. When something like that happens, a rift begins between the two.
Listen to the children at home. Imposing your thoughts on them is also a form of harassment as far as they are concerned. That stuff will eventually grow to resent you.
9. Being Selfish
It is normal for family to fight. No need to wait to see who will speak first after a fight. Whatever the problem is, it should be resolved before going to sleep at night. It is enough for one of the two to give up; The other will automatically become peaceful. The next day you may think to yourself, ‘Damn it… we got into a fight!’ Similarly, adults have to give up on some things with children. The thought of ‘what a small child he is… will he not listen if I tell you?’ How much truth is contained in what the elders said that he who gives up will not perish.
10. Social Media
Social media is the main cause of problems and rifts in many families today. Most people spend most of their time here. They are more interested in talking to strangers on social media than to people at home. We keep separate time for eating, bathing and going to office. But social media is taking over us time after time.
If you ask this, the problem starts. Likewise the phone. The phone must be under your control. Make sure you don’t let it control you. Stop looking at your phone for any reason while at home – especially in the bedroom. It will irritate your partner.
Read these ten reasons again. Ask yourself where you are going wrong. Fix it. Life is a blessing!
